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Is the “Dislike” Button The End of Your Friend List?

It’s a game-changer. It’s the #1 feature missing from Facebook, and it has been requested for years. Finally, the “dislike” button may soon be here!

Ok. Maybe it isn’t life altering. But Mark Zuckerberg’s recent announcement that Facebook is working on a “dislike” button has piqued a lot of interest. Why is it such a big deal? Currently, Facebookers can only “like” posts!

Facebook claims that the “dislike” button will be a way of showing empathy. But, one could always take time to comment, “I’m sorry you are______and let me know if I can help.” If that really is the only reason for the dislike button, then shame on lazy empathizers.

Personally, I think people just want to disagree with a simple click. And the “dislike” button spells disaster for many so-called “friendships.”

People are so used to the “like” only system, that “dislikes” will be a huge culture shock. And pseudo “friendships” probably won’t stand for “dislikes.” Few people want their posts “frowny-faced!”

Political statement? DISLIKE! Religious statement? DISLIKE! Cultural opinions? DISLIKE! You get the idea. Watch your “friend” counts disappear if you start disliking comments!

But that would be a mistake!

As the Bible points out, we all need a good “dislike” from a true friend. There is a huge difference between a pseudo-friend who stays only as long as you “like” everything they say, and a true friend who will “dislike” when needed. Consider the following examples:

  1. Proverbs 27:5-6 tells us, “Better is open rebuke than love that is concealed. Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.”
  2. Proverbs 27:17, “Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”
  3. Proverbs 28:23, “He who rebukes a man will afterward find more favor than he who flatters with the tongue.”

What about you, friend? Do you listen only to those who “like” your comments? Are you willing to consider “dislikes?” Or would you drop a friend, leave the Church, or even dismiss God just because of a “dislike?” Give it some thought… and if you dislike, we’ll still be friends!

Stabbed in the Back

Have you ever been stabbed in the back? Of course, I don’t mean literally. I mean when someone abuses your trust and friendship for personal gain. We call this “getting stabbed in the back.” And if it has happened to you, you know how difficult it is to rest easy with a “knife” in your back.

But apparently sleeping with an actual knife in your back isn’t nearly as difficult! According to recent news, a New Jersey man slept soundly for about 10 hours until he awoke complaining about a pain in his back. He called his brother and asked him to take a look. That is when his brother told him he had a 5” blade stuck in his back!

The wound had been the result of a struggle the man had that evening with someone on his front porch. His attacker had walked up asking for a cigarette, there was an argument and fight between the two, and then the attacker ran off. The man thought he had won the fight and decided not to chase his attacker into the night. He awoke the next morning to find quite a surprise!

If you have ever felt “stabbed in the back,” then you are in good company. Did you know that Jesus was stabbed in the back once too?  It is true! No, it wasn’t a literal knife, but Jesus’ close companion, Judas Iscariot, stabbed Him in the back. He betrayed Jesus for a small bag of money – hardly worthy of putting a knife in the back of the Son of God.

Despite having been betrayed, Jesus loved and prayed for His enemies, and He taught His disciples to do so too. And when He had the opportunity to have retribution on Judas…He just let Him go off into the night. Do you “chase your attackers into the night,” or love and pray for them instead?

If we trust people, we might occasionally take a knife to the back, but we do well to remember that vengeance belongs to the Lord (Deuteronomy 32:35; Romans 12:19). When I follow Christ’s example, I sleep better…how about you?